Hey! Visualize a situation. You're sitting with a best friend and talking about something interesting that your friend starts ignoring. Whoa! The last thing we would want is to be ignored and made to feel invisible when we are pouring our heart out.
And what about you? Well, you're a good listener who is all ears to listen to not only their important topics but also their claptrap. So, let's get to the solution when you come across such a situation like one of my friends recently did and asked for my advice. I thought, I should share the useful advice with you all.
See, I totally understand what you're going through and how it feels. So, I'm here to give you some practical advice from my personal experience. You can take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. Always weigh the pros and cons before listening to anyone's advice and analyze how it would work out in your situation that only you know best. Here it goes:
Some of the primary reasons why people show lack of interest in anyone's speech are:
- Being Predictable
- Being corny
- Being cliched
- Being repetitive
- Saying stuff they find boring
- Praising yourself or your favourite things/person too much
- They take you for granted.
I read somewhere that one of the biggest signs of showing respect to someone is listening to them intently and not ignoring them. I'm not saying he does not respect you but maybe he's taking you for granted for the reasons mentioned above ( you can pick those you relate with). The best thing to do when someone ignores you is either give them the dose of their own medicine or snap a finger in front of their eyes and say “hello, the person who's all ears to your claptrap utterances is saying something you need to hear.”
Try to tweak the way you present things. Maybe bring some new ideas to make your conversation refreshing. You can add an element of humour, innovation, creativity, a bit of compliments or just reveal something interesting you came across the net that might boggle their mind or take them by surprise.
And remember, there is nothing wrong with you just because he doesn't listen that much. It's just that sometimes people are caught up with something important or are stressed over something. Or maybe they just need a breathing space and they'll be back before you know it. I'm sure you're a great conversationalist because being all ears to someone is a great quality few people have in the busy and impatient era we are living in. You are a gem but not everyone is that caring and generous, not all the time.
I'm sorry if you find any words harsh, didn't mean to. I'm here to tell you the truth instead of sugarcoating it.
I'd be more than happy if it helps you in any small way.
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